Something which should be quite high on your priorities list when visiting a Dominatrix is your personal hygiene. Dommes are usually impeccably clean and well turned out – unless you’ve specifically negotiated a sweaty post-gym session or perhaps a dirty foot worship session – and I’m sure I’m not the only Domme who finds it a tad insulting to learn that a visiting sub hasn’t returned the courtesy of making sure they are also clean and smell nice.
There is rarely an excuse for you to begin a session in a less-than-perfectly-clean state, given that bathroom and shower facilities are available to all who visit my premises. I appreciate that you might have come straight from a long day at work, or had a long journey, or simply have become a bit hot and sweaty in anticipation en route. If you think, or even suspect, you might not be 100% fresh, it’s better to be sure… You are always welcome to take a quick shower for your peace of mind and my comfort. You most definitely won’t annoy me by keeping me waiting, your conscientiousness will please me, and I allow plenty of time in my schedule for all visitors.
Apart from the usual suspects; feet, armpits and hair, here are a few more femdom-specific tips which might seem like they’re obvious but can sometimes be overlooked in the build up to your visit…
1. Don’t forget your toothbrush…
A lot of sessions I participate in result in heavy breathing, huffing, puffing, and long exhaled screams – and that’s just me! Seriously, though, try to imagine how much of a mood-killer it is for me if, when leaning in close to gaze sensually into my sub’s eyes and whisper encouragement as he suffers for me, with every gasp he exudes (directly into my face at point blank range) I get a whiff of the monster munch he stopped and ate in the layby down the road, or his stale coffee breath, or the pint he had for Dutch courage en route. I shouldn’t be able to tell how much wine my sub drank or what he had for dinner the night before, either. I always have a bottle of mouthwash available in the slave bathroom for you to use, or – even better – you could bring a toothbrush and use it as part of your preparation when you arrive. Minty fresh breath is always the best breath to have if you’re going to be exhaling directly into somebody else’s face and don’t want them to subject you to an impromptu Roman shower.
2. Bottoms up!
If your bottom is going to feature prominently in our time spent together, then you should always take care to ensure it’s in a pleasant state. There are few things guaranteed to kill a spanking role play quite as dead as me having to stop and send you to wash your grotty bottom as soon as you’ve been put across my knee, because you’ve not had a spruce up after visiting the bathroom earlier on in the day. Can you imagine my delight at having a smelly, sweaty bumcrack complete with trouser fluff and a cute little TP “tail” protruding just inches from my face as you assume the position across my knee? Of course you can’t… Because it’s anything but delightful. As a general rule of thumb, if you’re going to bend over for a spanking, you should be freshly showered – just having a wipe and hoping for the best is most definitely not enough.
3. Preparing for a probing.
Similarly, if you’re coming for a strap-on session or performing any kind of anal acrobatics for me, you will need to prepare in advance for both our sakes (there are plenty of very good resources online for you to refer to if you are inexperienced, try this helpful illustrated guide for starters, and if you’re still not sure then Google is definitely your friend). Of course, there are very few easy ways of ensuring there’s nothing up there, but if you’ve made the efforts you should have made in advance (and possibly again when you arrive) then this should be minimal, if anything at all, and should not pose a problem to either of us. If, however, you haven’t made much (if any) effort to be ready for large rubber items to be pushed repeatedly in and out of your colon, it’s likely to end in a short-lived, messy, embarrassing and possibly very uncomfortable/painful experience for you, and an utterly unpleasant experience for me. Please, please prepare so we can both enjoy it as we should. It’s disappointing and a tad insulting for me – and presumably cringe-making for you – to find that your bottom is a no-go zone because you simply haven’t bothered to make the effort you should have done for me, and yourself. Don’t expect the colon fairy to magic your bottom clean for you. It takes effort.
4. CBT should be torture for you, not me…
Along much the same lines as the above advice for bottom-related activities, it probably goes without saying that if you are going to ask somebody – anybody – to have close contact with your genitalia, you should have washed carefully immediately before such contact is due to take place! Indeed, I have very few gripes with my visitors as far as this area is concerned, but the very occasional new guest does seem to have missed the memo. To clarify, everything should be freshly and carefully showered, with particular care taken to wash every surface very thoroughly (translation: check carefully beneath your foreskin if you are the proud owner of one!) before you place your penis into the hands of a Dominatrix. It’s never nice for a sub when Mistress retches and quickly opts to put the peg on her nose instead of his manservant before reaching for the Dettol wipes and giving a lecture on intimate hygiene.
5. To shave or not to shave…?
Additionally, whilst not a hygiene issue as such, you may find that certain Mistresses have rules or preferences as to pubic or other bodily hair. Some have a blanket ban. My personal preference is indeed for a freshly trimmed/shaved/waxed/otherwise de-fuzzed cock and ball area, but I do understand that personal circumstances or preferences may mean this is tricky or impossible, so I don’t enforce an outright Pube Ban. I find smooth cocks and balls are preferable for many kinds of CBT as, among other things, electrodes and clamps tend to attach better, cleaning up waxes and lubes after use is easier, and suction equipment tends to form a better airtight seal on bare flesh. Some of my visitors see understanding professionals in advance (I highly recommend Wicked Waxing for your intimate waxing needs) to have themselves fully waxed as part of their pre-session build up, and enjoy the sense of anticipation and servitude this gives them.
…And that concludes today’s sermon! The moral of the story… If in doubt, wash it! And if you’re not in doubt, wash it anyway!